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By Lance Winslow

Winners are interesting creatures to study in human society, some of them are so over the top, it’s like they cannot be beaten and cannot lose. They amaze us and even we begin to believe they are invincible, we expect them to win, as they probably expect to win themselves, I suspect.

Still, have you ever considered how a winner knows he is going to win? I recently sat down for coffee with one of these incredible winners of our society, and I asked him this question point blank, I just wanted to see what he’d say. Indeed, I learned something that day, and I thought I might pass it on for your benefit as well.

He told me that winners know they are going to win, because that is what winners do. They win, and that is their job, that is what they are good at and that is what they do. They will continue to do that until it becomes unimportant or they lose interest in whatever it is they are doing. They have to win, that is why they are there and why they compete. It just is he said, taking as if he was talking about someone else.

But we both knew who he was talking about, because he was one with that label, he knew it, I knew it, and yes, he is famous and well known, so I guess you might even know it, even though it was me that sat down for coffee with him that day. I hope you can take something away from this, I know I did. He also told me; You got to want it. So, think on that.

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Living Generously - The Wise Woman Way
By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Susun_Weed]Susun Weed

Living generously is a theme that plays loudly in many women’s lives. As women, our social conditioning - and often the impulse of our hearts - is to live generously by giving generously. And we give the one thing we have assured access to: ourselves. Generosity flows though us and through our lives. We give to friends, mates, children, community, even needy strangers. Many women live generously by literally giving themselves away. But don’t we need to be generous to ourselves as well to say that we are truly living generously?

OK! Suppose we do take time for ourselves, indulge ourselves with special foods, buy new clothes for ourselves, treat ourselves to a massage or a weekend at the spa. Is this enough to say we are living generously?

Several of my most important teachers, after knowing me for a while, told me that I was not generous. Since I make it a point to surround myself, and all those within my sphere, with abundance, this comment really took me aback. “What,” I demanded of my mentor Jean Houston, “do you mean?” “I mean you reserve yourself; you hold back. You have much more you could share, much more you can do.”

To live generously, as she saw it, is to impart as much of yourself as you can to everything you do. To throw yourself into it. Another teacher told me to “Jump into the volcano. Jump into the glacial lake. Otherwise you will just be a lukewarm drink.” I have done my best to embody these teachings, to remember that living generously means living every second to its fullest. It means being generous with my real self, being generous with all my feelings (distress as well as love, despair as well as delight), generous with my land (I own 55 acres of forested Catskill beauty), generous with my teachings (for almost forty years).

It has always been important to me that no one is denied access to my teaching for lack of money. But I discovered quite quickly that giving away my teaching was not fair to me or to my students. It devalues my worth. It devalues the worth of my teaching. And it devalues the student’s worth and lowers their self-esteem.

In Germany, a woman wanted to attend my workshop. She couldn’t pay, she said, for she lived off her own land and had no money. I asked her to give me something as valuable as my teaching would be to her. She insisted she had nothing. I insisted back that everyone has something of value if they look for it. She did attend the workshop, arriving with a hand-made basket filled with her own preserves, honey from her bees, fresh produce, and a hand-knit sweater. Her generosity strengthened her and left her ready to receive. She created a space in herself. She shook off the shame that told her she had nothing. She became free to take abundantly from what I offered. In this case, for me, living generously meant not giving, but demanding that my energy be met and reciprocated.

Barter doesn’t always work out so well, though. In lieu of payment in money, I am often asked to accept work that is unskillful and crafts that are useless to me. How can I live generously in this situation? How can I elicit, how can I support, abundance and generosity in my students?

Not by taking from my plenty to make up for their lack, but by eliciting and support their own worth. Not by making it easy for them, but by making it hard. Scholarship students pay half their fees in work on my homestead. I offer work/learn days at no monetary cost. Those with a thirst for knowledge thrive when given work and accept corrections with a smile. Those who won’t make use of my teaching shirk their tasks, feel abused when corrected, and generally give up and leave - often cursing me. Thus, living generously leaves room for those who are warmed by my fire and nourished by my words and actions to draw near and drink deeply, while propelling those who feel “burned” by my passion out of my life. More joy for all!

Living generously comes from my excess, not from my source. A Mexican midwife admonished me to: “Give your flowers. Give your leaves. Give your stalk. Even give your seeds. But never, never, give away your roots.” So I choose to live generously, to live passionately. The earth is filled with green blessings. Every breath is a give-away dance. Won’t you join me?

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The Biggest Hurdles on Your Road to Achievement and How to Overcome Them
By John Vespasian

Past mistakes have taught me many lessons. The most essential has been to make me realize the crucial value of ideas. You will find many obstacles on your way to a better life, but wrong ideas often constitute the largest hurdle to be overcome. Ignorance can keep you down for a while, but having wrong ideas can literally destroy your life.

Philosophical convictions play such a determinant role because they focus your mind on a goal and allow you to advance relentlessly in that direction. On the other hand, having wrong values is equivalent to putting blinders on your eyes. If you have a mistaken philosophy, you won’t be able to perceive opportunities.

You cannot move forward until you stop leaning backwards. You cannot take effective action until you stop chasing counter-productive targets. The following two poisonous ideas build enormous obstacles to success.

1. FEELING ASHAMED. You can make yourself ashamed of being too quick or too slow, too small or too fat, too ignorant or too old, or for who knows what. Whether your particular reason is one or the other, it doesn’t matter. You should not allow any of them to discourage you from moving forward.

If people criticize you, listen carefully, see if they have a point, try to improve whatever it is, assuming that it is something under your control, and move on.

Whatever you do and no matter how well you do it, lots of people will dislike you. Learn from their remarks if those make sense, shrug your shoulders at the rest, and continue to advance on your chosen path.

2. BELIEVING THAT YOU HAVE NO CHANCE IN LIFE. There will always exist people who possess everything you want and who got it without much effort. I am not denying that some owe their success to inheritance, luck, or family connections.

Does that mean that you should be paralysed by envy? Is that a sign telling you to give up your hopes of success? Not at all. For your personal achievement, other people’s good luck is irrelevant in the long term.

Imagine, for instance, that a competitor has great political connections and that you have none. If such connections are required to succeed in a certain field, you’d do better to acknowledge that reality.

It doesn’t mean that you have no chance in life. Take it instead as a message for you to move on and get down to work in an field where you have better prospects.

Crying about the unfairness of the world is mostly a waste of time. By all means, if you have decided to devote your life to promote justice, nothing speaks against your concentrating your energies on improving society.

Nevertheless, do not delude yourself that you need to change the whole world before you become successful in your own life. My guess is that, on your road to achievement, your largest obstacles will be wrong ideas. Throw them away today.

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Your Reality - My Reality
By Tim Connor

Everyone has their own reality and it is based on a number of factors things like; upbringing and early conditioning, life experiences and their outcomes, their education, spiritual values, their perceptions and judgments and so on. No two people have the same reality. Reality is how we see the world around us and how we respond to this world.

So needless to say two people will react totally different to the same circumstances. One of my favorite quotes is by Oliver Wendell Holmes. He said, “Circumstances to make the person but reveal who he really is.” (That’s males and females before you think that he was only referring to the male gender).

Our reality belongs to us but it isn’t right or wrong, good or bad or positive or negative it is just our personal view of the world and its circumstances, people and events. One of the significant problems in relationships is either when two people believe that their reality is the only one that exists or that their partner’s reality is wrong if it differs in any way from their own. Over the years I have met thousands of people at my seminars and I can tell you that without question most people tend to ‘fall in love’ with their own reality.

You have a right to your opinions, values, prejudices, likes, dislikes etc. However I have a problem when you assume that if mine are different from yours mine need to change. Keep in mind that I’m not suggesting that anyone either needs to change their reality or that they will not be happy or successful by holding on to their personal reality. All I’m suggesting is that if you have a great deal of conflict in your relationships you might want to consider;

1)Are you stuck in your reality and unwilling to accept that there could be another way to view or interpret things?

2)Are you willing to change, grow or let go of portions of your reality that just are not contributing to your inner peace or happiness?

3)Does your partner insist that no matter what ‘you just don’t understand - whatever.”

Reality is defined as - a philosophy or the totality of real things in the world, independent of people’s knowledge or perception of them or actual being or existence, as opposed to an imaginary, idealized, or false nature. My definition of reality is based on the benchmarks, opinions or personal values and how you measure your experiences against these.

Had a disagreement with your partner lately? I’ll bet is based on each of you bringing a different reality to the subject and then either defending your reality or trying to make their reality wrong.

Can a person change their reality? Of course but it takes courage, willingness, self-knowledge and the desire to see life a bit more accurately, right or wrong but with more clarity.

Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 4000 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 70 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, SOLD, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at http://www.timconnor.com or http://soldbook.com

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Found a great article for Christians to read about success and how to look at it.

http://www.stephencrenshaw.com/2009/04/02/can-christians-be-succesful/